Monday, February 09, 2009

Thoughts on My Mind

Ever since I heard about the octuplets born a few weeks ago, thoughts have been on my mind. My first thought was, "Right on! That mom now has insta-family, I'm sure she's been wanting a family for a LONG time! Yay for them!"
Then when I heard that the octuplets already had 6 siblings I thought, "Wow! That's going to be QUITE the family. I hope the mom and dad are excited for a big family...." Then almost instantly I heard that the mom was single and living with her parents, then my somewhat positive thoughts turned VERY negative. My thoughts now aren't very nice. I think that this mom is VERY irresponsible. VERY!! How can she put *that* kind of pressure on her parents, who I'm sure, just want to be grandparents to these kids, not their sole support! I'm angry with the doctors and clinics who allowed this woman, with no job or home of her home, to have all of these kids SO close and all at once.
I just don't understand.
Well, I understand the yearning for children of your own. THAT I do understand, but to bring children into that kind of situation, to me, is just wrong. I feel sorry for the grandparents. It's not their job to take care of this's just NOT! I feel sorry for these kids. Their mom brought them into this world alone, and without a father. Raising one or two kids on your own is hard enough, but to have 14 children depending on YOU?! I can't imagine!
I know that it's her children, her body, and her choice, but sometimes what you want isn't what you should have.
I had another nightmare last night, it woke me out of a sound sleep, and made me think hard about the things I've taught (or I'm teaching) my boys.
In my dream, one of my cousins was smoking and offered a cigarette to Cameron. HE TOOK IT! Not only did he take it, but by the time I found out about it, he was hooked. (And in my dream, he was the age he is now...) In the dream I tried over and over to stop him, but he would throw a tantrum and refuse to listen to me. (Like he likes to do whenever I tell him not to do something....) It was just all too real! When I woke up, I could *swear* that I could smell cigarette smoke. (I'm sure it was my *cough* LOVELY neighbor's.)
I couldn't sleep. So I tried to get my mind off of it by reading. While I was reading, Cameron woke up (early) and asked me what was going on. I told him about my nightmare, and asked him what he'd do if someone offered him ANYTHING that was bad. He thought for a while, and said, "Mom, if someone gave me cigarettes, I'd tell my teacher or you."
I just hope that I can keep steering this boy the right way. He's SO rebellious, I just don't know, sometimes!
I'm SO happy. Really, even with all these negative things going on in my life, I'm TRULY happy! Several things have just been clicking with me and my family. I really am blessed and pray continually that this joy and happiness will continue for a VERY long time!


Kim said...

Although I'm sure it wasn't funny to you when you dreamt it, your dream gave me a little chuckle. I have dreams about my students not making the right choices or not using the language arts skills that I'm trying to teach them during some critical time in their lives. I can't imagine how often I would dream of my own kids if I had any! I agree with you about the mom of the 14!!! little ones. I think the doctors who prescribed the fertility drugs need their heads examined and their ethics. If neither turn up worth a hill a beans, maybe they should lose their license to practice.

AimeeTheSuperMom said...

I have those occasional crazy dreams about my kids, too. They always make me sweat a little.

And, ditto on the crazy mom of 14. My biggest complaint is that we get to use our tax dollars to support her and her selfish choices. That totally bugs. And those poor babies! How do you give 14 children that young each the amount of love and attention that they need?? Not to mention meeting their physical needs. Yikes!

cressfamily said...

I sooo agree with you on the mom with 14 kids. I can't even imagine how hard that will be, especially on her parents. What were the Drs thinking?

I have thous dreams too. I think all moms do. you just have to trust that you are teaching them the right things and when the time comes they will make the right choices.

CareBearMommy said...

Wow, those ARE random thoughts. I totally agree with you about the octuplet mom. Every time I see her on TV, I just have to change the channel. I'm sure she's just reveling in all the publicity she's getting. >:(

I've had a few dreams like your dream before, too. Comes with the territory of being a mom, I guess.

Melzie said...

I offered to buy 2 of them. J/K, kinda. But really- I was wowed, and now I'm ticked off too. It's horridly cruel. And I just don't get it... why....