Tuesday, July 08, 2008

The Hardest Part

With Grandma gone things have been going nonstop. We're trying to get things put together for her funeral tomorrow. I was recruited to pull together a slide show of pictures of Grandma for the viewing tonight, my mom and her sisters have been practicing their singing for the funeral, my brother-in-law and sister have been typing up the funeral program. We're getting exhausted!
These things we're doing for the funeral really aren't that hard though. The hardest part in all of this is my Grandpa. He has Alzheimer's and can't figure out why Grandma isn't around. The family has had to tell him over and over that she's died and try to console him. The problem is that he forgets that he's been told and can't understand why he can't remember. We have been showing him that picture I had posted on my last entry where he's crying next to Grandma's body....it tears him up to see himself, but not remember being there. He's in a constant state of shock.
We've tried to get his mind distracted by asking him questions about when he was younger, but sometimes....and only sometimes....he refuses to be distracted.
Losing Grandma is something I've come to terms with. I still miss her laugh and her sense of humor, but seeing my Grandpa lose his wife time after time is hard!

6 comments:

Amy said...

I am so sorry for your loss. The look on your gpa's face in that previous picture is heart breaking, and then to not even remember it, oh I can't even imagine. My prayers will be with your family at this time and especially your gpa to have heavenly comfort and just a little mental reprieve. ((HUGS))

Kim said...

My heart is broken over your loss, but even more so over what your grandpa is going through. I can't imagine how it must feel for him or your family to revisit your grandma's passing almost continuously. I stopped by your place on my way back to Evanston this afternoon, but figured you were probably at your mom's and didn't get the chance to make it over to see your family. Please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers as you go through this loss. Loves and kisses.

Sketchy said...

It must be so difficult for your Grandpa, my heart just breaks for him.

Elena said...

That dimentia stuff is tough. My poor Granny had it too, so I know what your family is going through.

CareBearMommy said...

I've been thinking of you this week. I called and left a message a few days ago, but I know you've been busy. I feel so sad for you poor grandpa. I hope this doesn't sound bad, but I pray that he is able to be peacefully reunited with his sweet wife soon, and rid of all this Alzheimers/dementia.

The Cook Clan said...

Oh that is so sad. Poor grandpa. I hope everyone can feel the comfort and peace of having her spirit there close by.